I feel so grateful I got to talk about my sweet friend, Alec, at his service on Saturday.
This is what I said:
Today sure is surreal… But I am so grateful to be here… And I am even more grateful to have insane privilege of being able to say I was one of Alec’s friends — and even prom date (cue baby faced prom pic hahahaha).
Today, I am so grateful to be surrounded in a room full of Alec’s closest family and friends. As I look out at all of you, I am in awe, because I know I am in a place filled with people who knew and loved Alec in a way that words will simply never be able to come close to describing. As I look around, and try to take the reality of all this in…. I’ll be honest my heart feels heavy & broken… but somehow…at the same time it feels so full - full of love, gratefulness & this weird indescribable sense of comfort and peace.
As I said before, I am just one of Alec’s friends. One of Alec’s hundreds of friends. Because as you all already know, Alec was probably the friendliest human that’s ever walked this earth. The kids made friends everywhere he went and with everyone he’d meet. Alec was just that kind of guy. He was the kind of guy you just became instant best friends with — Alec just got you.
Understood you. Made you feel special.Instantly. Always. He was just that kind of guy. He was the kind of friend you always wished you’d have, and the kind of friend you always aspired to be more like. Alec was a rare breed. A standout friend.
Alec, was, is, and forever will be, singlehandedly the kindest, most lighthearted, most happy-go-lucky soul I have ever encountered.
That kid and I? Man…we had somethin’ special. For me, he was that kind of special standout friend I was talkin’ about. When I look back at my high school days, out of all the people, Alec always comes to mind. Alec always seemed to play a starring role in the highlight reel of some of my greatest high school memories. Of all the guys we hung out with high school, Alec was always my favorite guy friend. I’m not even going to say sorry about that hahaha. Alec always had me laughin’. And he always had me on guard…preparin’ for some sort of prank or craziness that might come my way. With Alec, I feel like I was always jokingly punchin’ him in the shoulder about something ridiculous he’d do or say. Let’s be real, Alec was crazy. He was so freakin’ funny — The kid was always doing or saying something ridiculous. I loved it. He made life so much more fun.
Alec was a light. An infectious person….you could not be in a bad mood around him. It just wasn’t possible. I don’t even think he’d let you if you tried. Because Alec was such a bright light, he attracted many, everywhere he went. As I said before, he was friends with everyone — even back in high school. Whether you were the coolest kid in school or the one sitting alone at the lunch table. Alec didn’t play by the rules. He was friends with everyone. He didn’t exclude. He didn’t judge. He didn’t make fun of others ever talk about about anyone. The kids just loved people — in the purest way I’ve ever seen. With Alec, you didn’t have to earn his friendship. You just got it. Because he gave his friendship out so freely. To everyone. Everywhere he went. I swear, the kid was in the business of “making peoples’ days”. He was an angel to so many people here on earth, and now he’s our angel in heaven. And I thank God so much for that. Some of my favorite memories and life moments were shared with that guy. .. And I know many of you are able to say the exact same thing. And man… what a gift that is. Alec, thank you for giving us all that gift…and God, thank you for giving us Alec.
Right now, I just want to take a second and say thank youuuuu to God for creating Alec. All of us in this room….we were all made by God and for God….and until we understand that our lives will never really make sense.
For me, this reality was easy to see...because of people like Alec. Alec was so clearly made by God and made for God. From his first day to his last, after hearing all these stories about his life, it is so clear that God has had him this whole time — whether he was aware of it or not.
God was with Alec from the start to the end, and the best part — now he is with him forever. We did not lose Alec. ‘Cause when you lose something you don’t know where it is….But we know exactly where Alec is…He is home. He is with God. And he is in the most perfect place we could ever possibly imagine. Far greater than anything our human minds will ever be able to comprehend. The hard part is for the rest of us, because we are still here. Left with the pain of missing our sweet Alec. This is the kind of pain and loss that cannot and should not ever be sugar coated. It’s going to be heartbreaking living without Alec. But, I believe that there is good news. This life isn’t all there is. This life is short. But the one to come lasts forever. Although our hearts are shattered up into a mess of a million pieces today, we can hold on to the hope that we will get to see Alec again some day. And you know what? When that day comes, we’re never going to have to say good bye. We’re going to get to hang out with him forever. And man oh man do I look forward to that day. But until that day comes, there is a lot of life to be lived. And I know that Alec would want us all to keep livin’ on like he did. Living all out. And loving all out. I pray that we would all live in a way that would make heaven’s newest and funnest angel smile and laugh.
I think that when God made Alec, he made him with such a specific, handcrafted, one of a kind, “only Alec Hardy can do this” kind of purpose.
And Alec, our angel, if you can hear us, which I think in some way you really can… I just want to say…you did it man. Whether you realized it all the time or not, God was in you. It was evident in the way you lived and the way you loved. You lived life full out. And you loved people full out.
1 John 4: 12 says, “No one’s ever seen God, but if we love one another his love becomes perfect in us.”
Alec, God was evident in you because of the way you loved us all. Even after you passed, on your birthday when you turned 22 you gave another shot at life to so many people in need. Because you chose to donate your organs, your heart, kidneys, liver, pancreas, and bone marrow were spread all across the coast but your wonderful, loving, generous soul will only ever be your own. Alec, thank you so much for that.
Thank you for giving this world the greatest gift ever — you.
Even though our lives may be short, and our bodies may quit on us, in the end, the only thing that matters and remains is our love. And your love will certainly be a legacy that lives on in our hearts for all our days. Alec, even though you had hundreds of others, thank you for being my friend. Thank you for all the laughter, long talks and good times. I think I can speak for everyone in saying, we are all far better people because we knew you. We love you so much.